Steps to Increase Your Confidence Quickly

You didn’t even see it coming. One minute you thought everything was fine, and the next, you were looking at major issues.

Now, the question is, what are you going to do next?

Confidence can take a hit anywhere, anytime, whether you’re trying to accomplish something new you’ve never done before, trying to get ahead at work, or even looking for that special someone.

The problem is, without confidence, it’s hard to pick yourself up and keep going. Since you know the only thing standing between you and success in moments like this is you, fixing confidence is crucial.

Know yourself and you will win all battles. – Sun Tzu

Lucky for you, these steps should get you there quickly.

Last update on 2024-04-16 / Affiliate links / Images from Amazon Product Advertising API

Fake It

In psychology, the phrase is to “Act As-If.” How do you do it? If you’re not feeling confident, act like you are. The funny thing is, once you get started, your body will kick in and will begin to find the old confidence for you all by itself.

Don’t believe it?

An entire Harvard study proved this to be true.

Take Care Of Yourself

Things battering at your confidence can do quite a number on you. Covering up can only get you so far. Sometimes you just need to deal with the stuff that hit you hard in the first place.

Here is where you acknowledge the emotional impact of what just happened. It might be you have some stuff to work through. The key here is not to go, so caught up wallowing in negative emotions that you forget to heal.

Do what you need to process the situation, then move on.

Sometimes therapy helps in this stage if you’re having more trouble than you know how to handle on your own.

Learn the Lesson

Failure hits confidence hard, but can also be an excellent teacher. Ask yourself what you can discover from this challenge and allow yourself to grow from the experience.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Make it Hard

Quitting is the easiest thing in the world to do, especially when your confidence is shattered. How to hang in there and restore your confidence? Making it impossible to give up.

By using accountability partners or programs, you’ll find it harder to let go of the project and walk away. The upside to this? By being forced to keep going, your confidence will begin to rebound.

Look for the Accomplishments

Very rarely are you faced with a total catastrophic failure. Examine what’s going on. What things went right? Where are the successes?

By noticing what you’ve accomplished, you’ll find your confidence comes creeping back.

Confidence can be a tricky thing, but with some careful examination of what you’re already doing now and taking some solid action to put yourself back in motion, you’ll quickly find it’s not as hard to be confident as you once thought it was.

Here then, are the seeds to your future success.

Reclaim Your Confidence When It Has Taken a Blow

No one is confident all the time.

Think about it.

Even the superstars have bad days from time to time.

Take, for example, actor Christ Pratt. After being cast in several roles where he played a jerk because (as he was often told), ‘you just look like a jerk,’ he started doubting himself. He lost his confidence. Yet no one can argue with his success now.

When we lose our confidence, we initially flounder. Chris Pratt started stress eating. He even wanted to give up. He didn’t though, and neither should you.

In fact, it’s a lot easier to reclaim your confidence than you think. Even after it’s taken a severe blow.

Find a Friend

Sometimes the best therapy is to just talk things through with a friend or mentor. Rehashing what just happened clarifies in your own mind the incident and helps you to process your emotions connected with whatever caused the blow.

Doing this with a friend means doing this with the help of someone who won’t let you fall into confidence defeating self-talk. Remember, though, this isn’t the job of a casual acquaintance.

Pick someone you can count on, to be honest, who’s already in your corner.

Dive Back In

Doing nothing guarantees continued failure. This is why jumping back in and trying again when your confidence is shaken is so important.

Returning to our example of the actor Chris Pratt, he always kept looking for the next role despite how the previous one turned out.

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Celebrate the Successes, No Matter How Small

Once you’re in motion, you’re going to start seeing progress. Embrace even the tiniest of steps. Anytime you’ve gained momentum, it’s worth celebrating.

In fact, these small successes will do the most work in rebuilding confidence, which you’ll see in the next step.

Revisit Your Accomplishment

Take a minute and think about those things which you have accomplished. By recognizing you’re capable of success, you’ll start to realize the negative things you’re telling yourself about you are not necessarily true. Here is where you recognize you’re worth more than you think.

With this comes confidence.

Learn Lessons

Failure is also valuable. It’s in moments of disaster where you learn the best things. This goes far beyond the basics of finding out what doesn’t work.

The best character-building exercises come straight out of these kinds of mistakes, building confidence, and showing what you’re capable of.

In the end, Chris Pratt gained his confidence back by following steps very much like these. He found out he was good at humor and used the lessons learned to move forward and build a fantastic career.

You too can find success and brand-new confidence again. Hang in there.

You’ll be amazed at how far you can go with a little confidence!