Are You Setting the Right Goals for Yourself?
There is a lot more to goal setting than just picking a goal and moving forward. It’s important to ensure that you are setting the right goals at the right time, and then implementing them in the right way, so that you can truly be successful.
Answer the following questions to see if you are setting the right goals for yourself, :
Are You Setting Specific and Realistic Goals?
It takes a little research to ensure that your goals are realistic. You need to do your research to see if it is something that is actually achievable. Once you’ve set a realistic goal, then you need to be specific enough in your description so that it’s also easy to take the end goal, and work backwards, to schedule the actions you need to succeed.
Are Your Goals Multifaceted?
Focusing on only one part of your life is a bad idea. People live multifaceted lives and need to make goals for all areas of their lives in order to feel successful. If you have a wonderful business and career, but your personal life suffers, then no matter how successful you are, you will not feel successful.
Something will always feel as if it’s missing from your life if your goals aren’t inclusive. So make sure your goals include something from different aspects of your life.
Is Your Goal Program Representative of a Real Need?
Once you create a program for yourself to reach the goals that you’ve set, you need to truly consider how representative it is of your reality.
Let’s say your goal is to be healthy and reduce your cholesterol by 10 percent in six months. But, you haven’t set aside the time needed to exercise and eat right.
If you don’t schedule the time needed, you won’t succeed, because something will always be in your way, taking time away from you. It will be very frustrating to practice your schedule, because it doesn’t represent your reality.
For instance, if you are going to exercise 30 minutes per day, setting aside only 30 minutes, isn’t going to be realistic. You’ll probably need to set aside an hour to account for getting ready as well as cooling down, or getting cleaned up to go back to work.
What Are You Learning from Failure?
Many times when setting goals and schedules, instead of learning from failure, people give up. Once you begin to implement your program to reach the goals you have set, you may notice there are things you’ve forgotten to take into account, don’t give up.
Learn from the failure and change your program to be more realistic.
You might find that in practice, you may have to re-think your goals and your program, but this is perfectly acceptable. In fact, it’s a good thing!
Many people believe failure is something negative, but the truth is, if you don’t fail sometimes, you’re not going to learn very much, and it’s likely your goals are too easy.
Do Your Goals Represent Your Needs and Wants or Someone Else’s?
A lot of people set goals that represent what someone else wants, instead of what they really want. This can really cause a lot of bad feelings and resentment which can derail the best laid plans.
As you set your goals, ask yourself if they’re really what you want for yourself, or what someone else wants for you. Ask yourself if you’re okay with any goals you make, being for someone else, before you embark on your journey.
It’s okay to do things because of someone else, but it’s important that you are honest about that and make some goals for yourself also that don’t involve anyone else’s needs or wants.
Schedules are very important to the success of reaching any goal in life.
To do lists pale in comparison to a well laid out calendar of tasks and activities that get you from point “A” to point “B”.
Make sure that you look at your schedule every morning and every night, take note when you succeed on sticking to your schedule, and where you don’t. Noticing a pattern of activity can be helpful in fixing a problem with your schedule, as well as staying realistic about whether or not you’re sticking to the plan.
Are Your Goals Focused Positively?
When writing a goal it’s important to write them in a positive way, or at least a way that feels positive to you. In your quest to improve your life, try writing down a goal and then changing the words to sound more positive to see if it isn’t more motivating.
For instance, “losing weight” seems like a good goal, but for some people it might signify deprivation. So instead, the person might frame the goal as “improving my BMI by 10 points” or “improving my cholesterol by 10 percent.”
Do You Have Too Many Goals Set at One Time?
Just as setting too few goals can be a problem, so can setting too many.
Everyone has a personal life, a work life, and points in between. If you have set goals in too many areas of life at once, you might tire yourself out and get overwhelmed. It’s called getting burned out.
Pick one personal goal, and one other type of goal to focus on until you reach them, and then add more goals as time goes on. You don’t need to do everything today. ‘Slow and steady wins the race‘, is a good motto to hang on to.
Setting the right goals for yourself takes some thought and consideration. Don’t try to set all your goals in one day – instead, set some goals in different stages and in different areas of your life, and give a lot of thought as to why you’re making any goals in the first place.
Recognize Your Progress Towards Your Goals
Are Limiting Beliefs Stopping You from Achieving Your Goals?
Everyone has conscious or subconscious ideas that can become limiting beliefs that may stop us from achieving our goals if we let them.
Sometimes these beliefs are instilled in us in childhood and sometimes we create them ourselves.
An example of a limiting belief that can get in your way of success is how you see yourself with money.
If you believe you will always struggle and always be poor, chances are you’ll set yourself up for failure. Your limiting belief that you’re poor and that you always will be poor becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The same can be said about anything negative in your life that limits you – whether it’s career, education, or personal such as being healthy and of normal weight.
If you see yourself a certain way, it can be hard to change that view and let go of that limiting belief.
Here are a few phrases that point to you having a self-limiting belief:
“It’s hopeless” – Anytime you use the word “never” is a clue that you’re focusing on a limiting belief. For example: “I’ll never have any money because you need money to make money.”
“I’m helpless” – When most people feel under-educated or helpless, they often blame their circumstances instead of working to change them.
“I can’t manage my money because I don’t know how” sounds insightful, but the part that’s missing is the feeling of helplessness when all you need to do is take a personal finance course or buy, read and practice the lessons in “Personal Finances for Dummies”.
“It’s useless” – The idea that nothing you do will make a difference, is that you believe that any action you take won’t make a difference.
“It doesn’t matter if I work out an hour a day, I won’t lose weight anyway.”
How do you know? Have you tried to do anything for longer than a couple weeks?
“It’s the universe” – Sometimes a limiting belief has to do with the idea that outside forces that you can’t control, are at work keeping you down. You can’t find a job or get clients because the economy sucks, where you live is depressed, you don’t have the right clothing and so forth, but you do nothing in your power to change it because it’s destiny.
“Everything happens for a reason” type of thinking can be very limiting and make you feel powerless. Unless you believe in putting a positive spin on it.
“I’m worthless” – The idea that you’re not smart enough or good enough to do what you really want, can be a very strong limiting belief system and seems to affect more women than men. You feel you’re not pretty enough, smart enough, or good enough to have something, so you don’t take the steps to achieve it, because you don’t feel that you deserve it.
“It’s genetic” – While there are certainly some instances where genetics play a huge role in a person’s life, the truth is that almost everything that is genetic can be fixed with the right mindset, training, exercise, and outlook.
You’re not stuck with your genetic traits, but if you think you are, you may not try any of the things to pull yourself out of the rut you’re stuck in.
“I’ll Probably fail” – The truth is, the fear of failure is something most people have as a limiting belief.
“I’m a bad public speaker so if I do it, I’ll be judged, and I’ll probably fail anyway, so why try” is a common refrain. But, how can you set that belief in stone if you’ve not tried? In fact, you only truly fail when you stop trying.
“I’m too different” – The limiting belief about being different, is that different is somehow bad.
You don’t want to be who you are because you’re different and you’ll be looked at as different by other people. You’re afraid to be who you are, and because of that, you don’t even know who you are, and you’re too scared to find out due to fear of rejection and ending up alone.
If you ever hear any of these phrases go through your head, disconnect from them, and turn them around to “why not me” instead of “why me.” Always ask “why not me” because the truth is, you’re not feeling anything different from anyone else who has made goals and achieved them.
The difference of achieving your goals lies in taking action, not just being intelligence or having talent.