To quote Samuel Clemens, AKA, Mark Twain, “When in Doubt, Just Tell the Truth – Then You’ll Have Nothing You Need to Remember.”
It seems more difficult now than ever, to be honest. Between everyday political correctness and dishonesty in the media, it’s no wonder people are having a difficult time in being honest themselves.
Just as important as speaking truth to others, speaking truth to power, is speaking truth to yourself.
Speak truth to yourself.
You are the most important person in your life, understand any negative emotions you might have towards yourself or others, and turn them into positive energy.
The only thing negative energy is good for is to help you understand and grow.
Hanging on to negative energy is not truth, and it is not trust.
Speaking truth is not only possible, it’s an absolute necessity.
Here’s a few things to consider:
If You Don’t Have Something Nice to Say, Don’t Say Anything
While this may seem counter intuitive to advice about being honest, it has to do with what you say to others about someone in particular. If you decide to refrain from saying something that is not nice, don’t go around saying it about that person to others.
This is more dishonest than saying something directly to the person.
How Do You Feel When Others Lie to You?
If you’ve been lied to before, and who hasn’t, how did it make you feel?
If you’re like most, it wasn’t a good experience. You feel betrayed by the person who lied.
This is exactly what others will think when you lie to them. What goes around, comes around.
It’s a Matter of Trust
Once someone discovers that you lied, it will be difficult for them ever to trust you again. This is even after you apologize or make some kind of amends. Trust is a very difficult attribute to develop and extremely easy to break. If you are looking to develop trusting relationships, they can only be built on a foundation of honesty.
What About White Lies?
This one is difficult, but it’s always best to avoid them whenever possible.
Refer to the section where if you don’t have something nice to say, etc.
This is more about saying something that is seemingly nice even though you don’t want to say it. Again, it’s better to deflect or keep quiet when this happens.
It’s Difficult to Remember the Lies
When detectives question suspects, they ask them a series of questions. Then, after an intense session of questioning, they often repeat some of the questions, especially the ones in the beginning. Most detectives know that it’s difficult to remember what lies you told. Suspects who are lying will often break in this line of questioning.
The same is true even when you are not being questioned by detectives. It’s quite difficult to remember what lies you told and who you told them to.
If you are a frequent liar, it’s going to eventually catch up to you.
The person on the receiving end is going to say something like, “I thought you said the other day that…,” etc.
Statements Are Forever
The internet is a permanent recording of statements people say. If you post something on Social Media, or on a blog you don’t control, that posting remains in cyberspace forever.
Therefore, when you post a lie and later deny you said it, someone will retrieve your original posting.
Constructive Criticism Is Difficult to Take, But So Useful
When someone gives you constructive criticism, it isn’t easy to hear. We don’t like to be told when we aren’t doing something right.
But, if you use it to better yourself, it can only help you in the long run. People should be thankful for this type of valuable criticism.
If, however, you get criticism that is mean-spirited, personal and is unjustified, you have the right to stand up to that.
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Taking Steps Towards Truth
Find two people who are willing to criticize your work or projects. Get in the habit of receiving feedback for your work. When this happens frequently, it won’t be difficult to take. Make sure the people you choose are qualified to perform the critiques.
Observe someone’s body language who you find to be lying. If you know someone who is a serial liar, approach them and start asking them questions. Try to ask questions that you know they will answer with lies. Take a look at their facial expressions and their actions when being questioned. Use this to help you spot lies from people you just meet.
If you have been caught in a lie with someone you know, think about steps that you can take to try to build trust up with them. It won’t be easy, but if you keep at it, you may find the barrier eventually breaks.
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